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Teens want lots of things, whatever is new, looks good, and feels good! there is nothing wrong with that. There are so many good things in life for us to enjoy. But, teens want something a lot more valuable than the “feel good” stuff. So, as a parent or maybe you have experienced about it, please share with me. What is teenagers want now?

Absolutely, teenagers want time and attention from parents. And then give them praises and encouragement. But most important is as a parent, you should be speaks from the heart on this one.

Sure teenagers like the shiny new stuff, electronic gadgets, games, clothing, ipods, etc. But some of the best times that we have had and the things that teens will talk about the most are the memory makers. For example, parents and teenagers make plan for little day trips to week long vacations.

Just them and us, we discuss as a family where we want to go and what we want to do. A week’s vacation starts out like this: beach or mountains? Kids usually pick beach for the week long. Mountains for weekends or choose go to camp or hotel? We discuss budget. We go around the table and we each get input as to what we want to do.

Then it is parent’s job to set up the itinerary where we stay and loosely what we are going to do each day and evening. We don’t make a strict schedule. That takes the fun out of it. We all have a choice to change our mind on what we want to do if we find something else when we get to our destination. The important thing is the teens have a part in the planning and discussing instead of being told, “You will do this”.

Most important is given them praises for just being who they are. Teens are trying to find out who they are. Even they don’t know, so they will go through phases of “trying on different hats”.

Teenagers and the Trends

We were all teens once and it seems like most teenagers are caught up with following the trends. What ever is hot today will be out of style in a few months when something else comes out.

That’s what I don’t miss about being in high school. Everything you wore had to be up to date. if it wasn’t name brand or something that everyone was familiar with you got teased and made fun of.

Are you familiar with the Saucony sneaker line? when I was in high school back in ‘93, these sneakers were starting to make a name for themselves. but not too many people heard of them. I remember only seeing them in the east bay catalogs. But I had a pair and people would say “what are those”.

It sucked back then because what ever you wore one year, it was out of style the next year. That’s the problem with teens, most of them are caught up with the “whatever is popular”, they have to have it. Teenagers make big deals out of the dumbest things. When I was in high school, there was one year that Jansport book bags were the big thing.

I used to blame it on black people being ignorant and I still do. I am black, and i don’t mean to offend anyone by saying this, but I have always said that black people make big deals out of anything with a name tag on it. Just because the book bad had the name Jansport on it, everybody had to have one.

It’s just a book bag but the majority of “my people” had to have them. If you didn’t have a Jansport book bag or a discuss t-shirt it was considered corny. You had to have a discuss t-shirt not a russel athletic or a champion. It had to be discussed, sounds stupid, it was stupid, but that’s how it was.

If there is one thing I can say that most teens might want today, it might be a new cell phone. With the iphone, the sidekicks, and the recently new 3G blackberry’s that just came out, I would think that most teens are into them. I think the new technology is becoming a demand for everyone these days.

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As parents, I know that it’s hard to building a good relationship with your teenagers (son or daughter). But, one more think and important to building is should focus on positive values. Teen age is hard period for son or our daughter. They are the most difficult years of their lives.

As a teenager, their physics, body and spirit of change and maturation, which can be frustrate, confuse, difficult times, and need to problem solving. Absolutely, parents have responsibilities to help them. And as parent, you should be know and understand that teenagers are in motion of thought specifically on childhood to adulthood as the abstract thinking.

First step for parents build relationship with teenagers is should focus on positive values. It is means when someone which is a good friend is a good start for most teenagers. During printing peer attracts teenagers, parents should take the time to explain their teenager what is necessary, namely teen relationship.

Teens need to know on the ups and downs in all relationships. And then, parents help to explain also with action about what is necessary teen relationship with parents.

It is important that teenager take their time to their parent advice on relationships as well. Teen relationships are not the last a lifetime, never be lately. Every time and everywhere, not only at home, you can make it with your teenager. Teen relationship should be fun, easy going experience.

So, how can you have a closer relationship with your teen? How can you make it friendly? I think with communicate effectively with your teen. Their ability to communicate effectively with your teen is one of develop valuable skills to achieve that goal. This is not always easy and needed intensively ways to communicate with your teen.

What can parents do if this happen? How you open and get closer communicate effectively with your teen?

First, clearly questions. It is mean the questions may be crucial for communicating with your teen. Ask about questions that not only answered “yes” or “no” stronger. Always try to open wide your communicated. Remember, communicate can be easy and first step to open everything.

Second, focus. Give your full attention for your teen. Maybe this is a toughie, because we tend to be so busy. It seems like we are always multi-tasking. But, if not do that, how you can build your relationships? Also, problems never end, and that is needs communicate to ways out.

Try check out the details. Listen to what your teen is really saying! Teens rare answers on issues, so that the details that may be of importance. And then, speak also keep following the action fit. In this way, parents have problem that in the race is looking for penalty break the rules.

However, the penalty is applied as a general rule not under the action teen. But, if we believe, communication, we tend to think about how we can express us. Good luck!