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Essentially we adopt for help and prepare for better life children. However the people hoping to adopt should know this is have a significant difference and all that is entail in adoption. Adopted will become responsible for everything that concerns the child until the child grows up. So, if we do not have it, I think people adopt more for themselves.

Accepting somebody else’s child and bring him/her up like our own is not an easy task. One should be really mentally prepared. The first thing we need to understand about adoption is that the adopting parents normally undergo the process of adopting a child because they think that is one way to fill that voids in their lives.

Not being able to have children also puts pressure on a couple especially if they live in a society where having kids is like a status symbol of some sort. They want to have that complete-family feeling, and the kids are go to take the sense of how it’s like with the love and care from parents.

But there is also another angle, and that is when a childless couple has developed some affections toward a child which was entrusted to their care by force of circumstance (either by a complete stranger, by a household helper or even by another relative). This special bonding that has developed among the child and the couple prod the latter to explore the legal avenue to adopt finally the child.

Obviously, you should not be adopting kids if you don’t have the desire to parent. I am always worried when people try to “special order” a child just the way they want it because that to me shows they only care about what they want, not about the child. I’ve seen it a lot and have started to doubt people.

Please do not downgrade yourself by saying you would not be the real parent. It sounds like you would really care for the child and not just yourself, so you would definitely be a “real” parent. The first or bio parents would be “real” also, you would simply have different, but important roles. Adopts have two sets of parents, both real. That is what I’ve heard from 95% of them.

Being a part of a family is definitely better than being in a group home. I think people who adopt from foster care is doing it for the children as well as them, which is a great balance.

Finally, please remember that to be adopted, that child lost his first parents. The truth is, adopts have the two sets of parents. That is their truth. People that can understand/accept that may not be ready to adopt. Adoption is always the better alternative. This is also a very humane way of saving lives. We may not be able to change the world, but we can surely make a difference in the life of one child.

See related topic: http://getparent.com/blog/2008/10/06/adoption-is-not-like-shopping-for-a-new-car/