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Your kid sometimes will be having game, playing, sport contest or anything in the school. So, you are as a parent always telling your kid that for you that is does not matter if your kid wins. But, what’s important is that your kid would give the best in the contest and if kid gave best and looses, still the champion. But, if kid wins and did not give the best, would he/she feel happy and would deserve the title?

How you encourage your kids?

First step:
Parents should ask what do you hope to achieve by sending your kids to school? Do you aim to make a status statement each time your kids step out in their pretty school uniforms, board their air-conditioned bus to head to/return from their classy school? Or is your intention to have them equipped with the knowledge, attitudes and skills needed to make a success of their own lives adults?

High fees and pretty school buildings do not guarantee your child a high quality education so impact to character also encourage. It includes being conversant with what it takes to do more than just survive in the real world.

We were particularly glad they did not succeed, because the resultant live cat would have been so grotesque, and its looks would probably have caused visiting friends/relatives to have nightmares. But let’s not loose sight of the point being made - kids have so much capacity of believe and to display such belief and wonder without embarrassment.

Any schooling they are exposed to must be checked to ensure it does not kill this quality in any child. The problem is most schooling systems out here teach kids to be the opposite of what I have described above.

The best gift you can give your child is the ability to think for him/her. Make sure you send him/her to a school that does not “kill” that instinct/ability.

Second step:

Try to practice how to give the best encouragement. Tell to your kids that whatever she/he what to do can do it, winning is not really target but happiness is. You have to encourage kids no matter what and make them think that they are winners anyway, you are doing a good job of it and me admire you for it, if I had kids I would do the same thing as you.

I think what you tell him is really encouraging, just make sure also that you are present in his/her contest. And after that treat her/him in a restaurant for a job well done, not all kids can do what he/she did and tell us about the contest. Good luck!

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Teens want lots of things, whatever is new, looks good, and feels good! there is nothing wrong with that. There are so many good things in life for us to enjoy. But, teens want something a lot more valuable than the “feel good” stuff. So, as a parent or maybe you have experienced about it, please share with me. What is teenagers want now?

Absolutely, teenagers want time and attention from parents. And then give them praises and encouragement. But most important is as a parent, you should be speaks from the heart on this one.

Sure teenagers like the shiny new stuff, electronic gadgets, games, clothing, ipods, etc. But some of the best times that we have had and the things that teens will talk about the most are the memory makers. For example, parents and teenagers make plan for little day trips to week long vacations.

Just them and us, we discuss as a family where we want to go and what we want to do. A week’s vacation starts out like this: beach or mountains? Kids usually pick beach for the week long. Mountains for weekends or choose go to camp or hotel? We discuss budget. We go around the table and we each get input as to what we want to do.

Then it is parent’s job to set up the itinerary where we stay and loosely what we are going to do each day and evening. We don’t make a strict schedule. That takes the fun out of it. We all have a choice to change our mind on what we want to do if we find something else when we get to our destination. The important thing is the teens have a part in the planning and discussing instead of being told, “You will do this”.

Most important is given them praises for just being who they are. Teens are trying to find out who they are. Even they don’t know, so they will go through phases of “trying on different hats”.

Teenagers and the Trends

We were all teens once and it seems like most teenagers are caught up with following the trends. What ever is hot today will be out of style in a few months when something else comes out.

That’s what I don’t miss about being in high school. Everything you wore had to be up to date. if it wasn’t name brand or something that everyone was familiar with you got teased and made fun of.

Are you familiar with the Saucony sneaker line? when I was in high school back in ‘93, these sneakers were starting to make a name for themselves. but not too many people heard of them. I remember only seeing them in the east bay catalogs. But I had a pair and people would say “what are those”.

It sucked back then because what ever you wore one year, it was out of style the next year. That’s the problem with teens, most of them are caught up with the “whatever is popular”, they have to have it. Teenagers make big deals out of the dumbest things. When I was in high school, there was one year that Jansport book bags were the big thing.

I used to blame it on black people being ignorant and I still do. I am black, and i don’t mean to offend anyone by saying this, but I have always said that black people make big deals out of anything with a name tag on it. Just because the book bad had the name Jansport on it, everybody had to have one.

It’s just a book bag but the majority of “my people” had to have them. If you didn’t have a Jansport book bag or a discuss t-shirt it was considered corny. You had to have a discuss t-shirt not a russel athletic or a champion. It had to be discussed, sounds stupid, it was stupid, but that’s how it was.

If there is one thing I can say that most teens might want today, it might be a new cell phone. With the iphone, the sidekicks, and the recently new 3G blackberry’s that just came out, I would think that most teens are into them. I think the new technology is becoming a demand for everyone these days.